This chart is a Sociological Comparison of How Relationships can work.
Each column is considered a „package deal“, in that each relationship usually functions in terms of most of the characteristics of the 3rd dimensional version or the 4th dimensional version, rather than a combination of both versions.
The Pleiadians Germane & Sasha
transmitted by Lyssa Royal
A very interesting comparison between relationships as they are now and relationships as they could be!
3-D3rd-Dimensional Relationships |
4-D4th-Dimensional Relationships |
SEPARATION |
INTEGRATION + REINTEGRATION
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SECRECY
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HONESTY + OPENNESS |
FEAR-BASED MONOGAMY
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RELATIONSHIPS BY CHOICE Monogamy-by-choice or Polygamy-by-choice or Poly-Fidelity-by-choice. There is no inherent „right“ or „wrong“ to any type of relationship: They are all inherently neutral. Any type of relationship is „okay“. If I choose monogamy, this does not mean that I expect or need my partner to also choose monogamy. |
CONDITIONAL LOVE I will love you, only so long as you fulfill my needs and expectations. I will withdraw my love, if you do not satisfy me. |
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE Even if you don’t fulfill my needs and expectations, I will still love you. I love you for who you are without trying to change you. |
COMMITTMENT I need committment, in order to avoid my fear of having to deal with other relationships. Committment is a 3rd-dimensional illusion. Committment never insures my security. Committment only makes me think or feel that I am secure |
BEING IN THE PRESENT
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EXPECTATION I want, expect, and try to get my partner to fulfill my expectations and needs. I use my partner to satisfy my needs. |
NO EXPECTATIONS I trust and have no expectations from my partner. I enjoy my partner, but without expectations |
MANIPULATION I use obvious or hidden manipulation so that my needs will be met, and so that I can remain protected from my own fears. I only see my partner as who I need them to be, not who they really are |
ALLOWINGNESS I allow my partner to be who they need to be. Only then can I see who they truly are. |
THE NEED TO CONTROL I do not trust that everything that occurs is for my highest good. Therefore, I need to control and shape the relationship, so that it will take the form I wish it to be. I feel like I „own“ my partner. |
ABSOLUTE TRUST
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RELATIONSHIP takes Precedence to PERSONAL GROWTH |
PERSONAL GROWTH takes Precedence to RELATIONSHIP. |
DEPENDENCY I depend on and need someone outside of myself in order to be happy. |
SELF-SUFFICIENCY I recognize that I, and only I, am the creator of my own reality. Therefore, only I, am the generator of my own Happiness. |
A PERSON CAN NOT FULLY LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON. 3-D emphasizes Duality. If my partner begins to also love another person, that means he/she will have less love for me. (This is an illusion) |
A PERSON CAN FULLY LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON. 4-D emphasizes Multiplicity. No matter how many other people my partner loves, this does not diminish at all, in any way, how much love he/she has for me. No matter how many other people I love, this does not diminish at all, in any way, how much love I have for my partner. |
My partner spending
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My partner spending LESS TIME with me is fine. |
PAIN There is always pain when I function from the 3-D relationships „mind-set“. |
HAPPINESS, PLEASURE, & ECSTACY There is never any pain, only happiness, pleasure, and ecstacy, when I function from the 4-D relationships „mind-set“. |
ENDING A RELATIONSHIP
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ENDING A RELATIONSHIP does not create PAIN & LOSS. In realizing that this relationship is no longer serving us, we choose to harmoniously end it. We recognize that the relationship is going in different directions, and so we allow it to end, without any hard feelings. Only with love |
FEAR or PAIN of LONELINESS Loneliness, like separation, is a 3-D illusion.
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FEELING CONNECTED to SIGNIFICANT OTHERS. Even if my partner is far away (in space), or even if I haven’t seen my partner for a long time (in time), I still feel very connected to them. Whereas separation is an illusion, being actually connected-together is the reality. |
ANGER AT ANOTHER (Externalized anger) I am angry at my partner for not meeting my needs! |
ANGER AT MYSELF (Internalized anger) I am angry at myself for creating a reality that I do not prefer. |
VICTIMHOOD „Hurters“ & „Victims“ I sometimes hurt others. I am sometimes hurt by the comments or actions of others. „Hurters“ & „Victims“ is an illusion. There is no victimhood, since each one creates their own reality. |
I CREATE MY OWN REALITY. Self-Responsibility Self-Empowerment I create my own reality, and this even includes other people’s reactions to my actions. I can never be hurt by another person. I can never hurt another person. Only I am responsible for my reactions to other people’s comments or actions. |
FEELING RESPONSIBLE for the NEEDS of my PARTNER My partner is seeking to have their needs met externally by me, but a person’s needs can never really be met by anyone else, so they are bound to eventually get angry at me, for not fulfilling their needs. |
BEING RESPONSIBLE for what I would like to GIVE to My PARTNER & our RELATIONSHIP I am pure in my intention in my relationship. I am 100% who I truly am with my partner. I am responsible for what, in my integrity, I would like to give to our relationship |