This is a small but very effective exercise that Elias recommands. Indeed, without self-value everything becomes difficult and is effort.
Incorporate for a brief time framework an exercise of viewing yourself as two individuals. View yourself as you, but also view yourself as another individual. Each time you present yourself with a preference or a dislike, incorporate an action with yourself as though you were engaging another individual, and speak to yourself as you would to another individual were they to be presenting the experience to you. For in the same actions that you generate, were another individual to present those same scenarios to you, you would be encouraging of them rather than expressing to them in a discounting manner which would be intended to invoke guilt. You would not incorporate that action with the other individual.